And I'm probably just as guilty...We're all a bunch of miserable failures. Failures because we are completely unable to access that which we claim is so very common. It occurs to me, the more and more things I do and see other people do, that common knowledge is as about as common as seeing a koala bear in my shower. As cute as that would be, it almost never happens.
Common sense is so called because anybody can get it. Sure pedestrians have the right of way, but if the car hits you, you lose. Everyone should be aware of this. People have to get off the bus before you can get on. If you stand in the way, you get stepped on and... you lose. It isn't rocket science. Attacking an armed police officer while handcuffed? I shouldn't have to tell you that: you lose.
Now people can more or less grasp these concepts, even if they don't apply them and end up being beaten to a bloody pulp. The real tragedy I've noticed is that common sense can't seem to save us from someone else telling us we need something then wasting half of our lives looking for it.
I'm not talking about advertising making us buy a particular product, although our desire to have "things" has led us into debt and personal ruin on more than one occasion. Instead it seems we are forcing ourselves to accept the unachievable concepts that really don't come from anywhere in particular.
They aren't so much concepts that are dictated to us, just hints and suggestions along the way that somehow prompt us to plan the next 20 years of our lives based on a particular construct or model. They're all false constructs and
everyone knows this but can't seem to shake it.
There is a clear difference between embracing the moment and buying a construct. One of this will get you success, one of these will doom you to failure. Guess which? Use your common sense.
You can't get around the moment, it is the now, it is what you are doing. But when you consider the moment to be the beginning of your future for the next five, ten or twenty years, then you have set yourself up for a world of hurt. You want a job, you apply for it. You did it, it is the now, you could get it. It sucks? Quit it, get a new one. Of course you can... you always fucking can. You want to date this girl over here? Ask her out. She's annoying? Dump her. See a pattern?
This is what it is, try it. Doesn't work? Try something else. Get it? It happened, it is still happening. It is going to happen some more. No prison here.
What's that? You've planned to have this one job for the rest of your life. To the exclusion of everything else? Well you're fucked. You lose. This girl you are dating, you planned to have kids with her five years from now then retire to some... place... or something? Well you are fucked, you lose.
Any of these "dreams" clearly exclude the moment for what it is: a moment that passes. It is impossible to assume that these things can work out with any expectation of all requirements being met. You cannot plan beyond what you are doing now because you are not doing it yet. So either do it now or do something else. But no, you figure it can work out this way, you need to have two kids by the time you are thirty. Oh you only had one. Well you didn't accomplish that, feel sad and forget about the wonderful moment where you had that one. Dumbass. You wanted to marry that girl and she just dumped your ass, well that's too bad. Especially since you wasted your precious moments planning out the next 50 years with precision and ignorance of every moment and what you were fucking doing now.
To hell with this, I'm boring. I'm going to go do some stuff.